Excerpt For You

By: Lauren Thaler  |  Date: October 19th, 2011  |  Category: On Being Parentless  |  Comments: 3 comments »

Hi Blog Friends,

This post is an excerpt from something I’m working on. I’m not sure what final form it will take, but I hope you enjoy the sneak peek. I welcome any feedback.

Unfortunately, I’ll be posting more sporadically across the next several months because work and life are speeding up. I always love to hear from you, however, so feel free to reach out whenever you feel like it!

Until next time,




It was a Saturday evening in late January, two weeks after my 28th birthday. Like the months leading up to this day, we were waiting.  There was, however, one distinct difference. After the 10 agonizing months that preceded this night – 10 months of never knowing what was around the corner no matter how many patient doctors we gripped on to – the night my mom died, I had a 10-page booklet with enumerated steps of what to expect. It [...]

When Fear Disappears

By: Lauren Thaler  |  Date: September 15th, 2011  |  Category: On Being Parentless  |  Comments: 7 comments »

When I was a kid, I remember falling asleep to the sound of my mom doing the dishes in the kitchen just down the hall from my bedroom in our apartment. It was just the two of us, and my cat, Popcorn, whose 15 lbs of cat fat and feline fur I’d hold tightly as I fell asleep. My nighttime thoughts as I drifted to sleep were mostly unmemorable childhood contemplations of friends and after-school activities; however, every now and then my mind would linger on a single thought – a childhood fear – that I returned to occasionally before I fell asleep: parentlessness.

My mother’s mortality always frightened me, but I became quite skilled at successfully pushing this dark thought into a small compartment deep in the precipices of my mind at night. And the comforting sound of my mother moving around the kitchen doing the dishes always helped.

Then of [...]

Who’s Gonna Stop Me?

By: Lauren Thaler  |  Date: August 11th, 2011  |  Category: On Being Parentless  |  Comments: 2 comments »

The other day I was talking to a colleague at work. Turns out this coworker is dating a new guy, and her parents don’t approve of the relationship. In fact, her mother says she’s losing sleep over it. The reason for her parents’ disapproval is immaterial. What’s important is how much mind space this issue is occupying for her, and rightfully so: New relationship, Parental Approval, The Future – Yikes.

When we said our goodbyes and vowed to talk again soon, I couldn’t help but feel a sense of serenity. My parents will never be up in arms. In fact, they’ll always rest quite peacefully too.

What I mean is this: I can get a tattoo, dye my hair blue and elope to Timbuktu. Who’s going to stop me? As a parentless young adult, there are absolutely no obstacles of parental pressure or guilt in my way. I have a shiny, paved [...]